A WOMAN revealed how her fiancé’s porn addiction has effected every aspect of his life.
She explained that he watches the NSFW content while driving to work and when he’s on the job at clients’ homes.
In a post on Mumsnet, the unnamed user detailed the situation, revealing how it has derailed her family.
The 28-year-old woman has been with her partner, 30, for six years, sharing three-year-old twins together.
She explained how things had seemed to be going well in their relationship, with him even popping the question the previous month.
However, the poster soon came across “several private browsing apps” on his phone when she was changing the music on a drive.
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“When I questioned him, he admitted he has a full blown ‘porn addiction’ hence the private VPN browsers,” she wrote.
While this revelation was shocking enough, she couldn’t believe the extents he went to to watch porn during the day.
“I then found out that he browses or uses porn several times a day, at work,” she explained.
She revealed that her partner, who works as a tradesman, works late hours six days a week.
“He also admitted he sometimes does it before he starts the actual job and after, so in a building site porter-loo or, I hate to say it, a customer’s house,” she continued.
The woman added that he “even watches it sometimes whilst he drives to work.”
She pointed out that this habit also means that she is often left at home caring for their children by herself.
“He’s purposely been late home and leaves earlier in the morning and now that I know he’s been delaying his arrival home, I’m quite cross,” she said.
“After seeing the time stamped evidence, I have no idea how he gets any work done in all honesty.
“He also said he can never help with nursery drop-offs or pick-ups as he’s got to be at work for a certain time although I think if he quit watching porn before work he could help.”
The mum-of-two, who works three days a week, said “it very much feels like he’s dodging family responsibilities.”
Getting help with a porn addiction
IF you think you, or someone you know, is battling a porn addiction, here’s everything you need to know.
Acknowledge the Issue:
– Recognising that you have a problem is the first and most crucial step.
Seek Professional Help:
– Consult a therapist or counsellor who specialises in addiction. They can provide tailored strategies and support.
– Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is often effective in addressing addictive behaviours.
Join Support Groups:
– Consider joining a support group, either in-person or online. Groups like Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) offer a community of individuals facing similar challenges.
Establish Healthy Routines:
– Develop new hobbies and interests that can divert your attention and reduce the urge to watch porn.
– Regular physical exercise and mindfulness practices like meditation can help manage stress and reduce addictive behaviour.
Set Boundaries and Controls:
– Use internet filters and parental control software to limit access to pornographic content.
– Create a schedule to limit screen time and ensure you have a structured daily routine.
Confide in Trusted Individuals:
– Share your struggles with a trusted friend or family member. Having someone to talk to can provide emotional support and accountability.
Educate Yourself:
– Learn about the impacts of porn addiction on mental health, relationships, and overall well-being. Knowledge can empower you to make positive changes.
Stay Patient and Persistent:
– Recovery is a journey and may involve setbacks. Stay committed to your goals and celebrate small victories along the way.
The Mumsnet user explained that she felt “a bit manipulated” by her partner’s lies and “excessive” porn habit.
She described feeling “completely miserable” and said she felt “so betrayed and disappointed.”
Other Mumsnet users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“I don’t think I’ve ever heard anything so bad. You need to get out of the relationship,” wrote one reader.
“Jesus f**king Christ. Time to leave this relationship,” agreed another person.
“I couldn’t even consider staying with him,” said a third commenter.
“Just leave this disgusting pig, have some self respect for yourself. He has zero respect for you, f**k him off, seriously,” wrote another Mumsnet user.
